So I have only been a mom for about 9 months so I don't have much experience but I know this, that I worry all the time about if I am damaging my boy and if he is going to remember this and if I am doing the wrong thing and if I am a failure. It is truly not hard to feel like one as a parent because we will never be as good of one as we have hoped, and that is the truth. One day our kids will look back and say " I wish mom and dad would of done this or that." It is going to happen, which totally sucks! Anyway I was reading this book and this passage struck me, I think it is so true and it gave me some peace of mind. We as women don't share enough of our struggles with each-other. It is like our struggles are secrets and if we share them we are going to be shamed, when in fact that opposite is true because in sharing we would realize that we have all been there.
" Real mothers know it is OK to eat cold pizza for breakfast. Read mothers admit that it is easier to fail at their job then succeed. If parenting is a box of raisin bran than real mothers know that the ratio of flakes to fun is severely imbalanced. For every moment that your child confides in you, or tells you that he loves you, or does something unprompted to protect his brother that you happen to witness, there are many more moments of chaos, error and self doubt.
Real mothers may not speak heresy but they sometimes wish they had chosen something for breakfast other than thin endless cereal. Real mothers worry that other mothers will find the magic ring in the box while they will be looking for ages.Well, Rest easy real mothers because the very fact that you worry about these things already shows that you are a good mother." - Jodi Piccoult
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